Friday, December 08, 2006

That time of year again

Long time with no update. Haven't heard anything from the woman at the courthouse. Calling her back is on my list of to-do items before I travel for the holidays. Last I heard she was sending letters to people who live in the area where I was born who had the same last name as my mom, asking them if they know her current contact information. My guess would be she never heard back. It's a little sad. You know, it's not like I was going to ask for a seat at Christmas dinner. A picture and some medical info would have probably satisfied me for life. But, what are you going to do?

Birthday number 27 is coming up in a few weeks. Birthdays are so weird. I wasn't one of those adopted kids who freaked out on my birthday. I was always excited, but it was mostly because I liked the idea of having a party at my house. Having a younger brother and sister and a dad who worked odd shifts meant that I seldomly got to have friends over, so I always looked at birthdays as the one time of year I was allowed to have people over. As I got older birthdays got a little more weird. I mean, it's your "birth day" so what do you naturally think about but the day you were born, which for most adopted people probably doesn't turn out to be the high point of the lives of anyone invovled. In fact, I have always found myself thinking that my birthday may very well have been the most difficult day of my biological mom's life. Or maybe not. Maybe it wasn't as hard for her as I like to think it was. Who knows.

Anyway, this year's birthday will be different for sure. My birthday falls between Christmas and New Year's so I'm always at home in Pennsylvania on my birthday. In fact, I've never woken up anywhere except my parents house on my birthday nor have I ever gone to work or school. Usually my parents take me out for lunch and whatever friends happen to be in town go out to dinner. I don't usually do anything too out of the ordinary, just lie low and let it pass. This year, having only been at my job for a few weeks, my birthday will actually be my first day back at work after the holiday break. Yuck.


Blogger elizabeth said...

I really hope you can find your mother. I don't know anything about searching, but I wish you the best of luck. You deserve your answers, your identity, it's your birthright.

3:32 PM  
Blogger Being Me said...


I suspect that adoptees think about their birth stories more than others, at least more than me. I tend to look at birthdays as accomplishments, as in "Wow! I finished another one."

Giving birth to my daughter was a wonderful experience. Signing the relinqishment papers two weekes later was the worst day of my life. Each person's story and experience is different...

If everyone could know their own birth and family stories that would be a swell Christmas present. I looked back at your post about Stories. It's good to share our stories. Telling them they sometimes shift or our awareness shifts.

7:38 PM  
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2:09 PM  
Blogger petunia said...

If she works for the courthouse she just has to run a drivers licence/police check with her height, eyecolor, age and maiden name --that's how they found my biomom.

8:33 PM  

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